What is the benefit of positive self

Positive self-talk is an effective stress reduction tool.

From correcting negative thoughts to coping during difficult times, positive self-talk changes lives.

If you’re struggling with negative thoughts and want to be kinder to yourself, we can help.

But before we review how to have positive self-talk, let’s consider what self-talk means and how to spot negative thinking. We’ll also look at some specific examples of self-talk.

The good of self talk

Let’s take a look at what self talk is and why it’s important.

What is positive self talk?

Self talk is your internal dialogue. It’s the endless stream of unspoken thoughts that run through your head every day. If you’re generally a positive person, your self talk will be more positive.

However, if you’re generally a negative person, your self talk will be more negative. Whether positive or negative, this inner voice reveals your beliefs, thoughts, questions, and ideas.

There’s also some nuance to self talk. You might hear some internal dialogue that’s illogical or doesn’t quite match up with who you are.

Author Brené Brown refers to these voices in her head as her ‘gremlins.’

This is normal and nothing to worry about if you know how to use positive self talk to overcome it.

What are the benefits of positive self talk?

Positive self talk enhances your well-being and helps you effectively manage stress.

Other possible benefits of positive self talk include:

Healthier immune system
Reduced pain
Better cardiovascular health
Improved mental health
Improved self-esteem
Increased vitality
Greater life satisfaction
Reduced stress
Better physical well-being
Increased lifespan

It’s still unclear exactly why positive self talk supports these health benefits. But one theory suggests that having a positive outlook helps you cope better with stress.

In other words: having positive coping skills reduces the effects of stress on your body.

Another theory is that positive people tend to live healthier lifestyles. They eat healthier, exercise more, and don’t smoke or drink too much alcohol.

Rumination: the flip side of positive self talk

Keeping an eye on your thoughts is crucial for your health and well-being. In this section, we’ll explore the negative side of self talk.

What is negative thinking?

Rumination is the dark side of self talk. It happens when you replay negative thoughts over and over again in your head.

Though it’s helpful to think through problems, spending too much time thinking about them can affect your well-being. It can also bring on mental illnesses such as anxiety or depression.

Here’s an example of rumination:

“I really messed up at work today. Man, did I mess this up. I’ll probably get fired. I can’t do anything right. Why did that happen? No wonder I can’t get a promotion.”

And here’s an example of positive thinking/self talk:

“I messed up at work today, but I learned something from it. I understand where I went wrong, and next time I’ll do a much better job. I’ve got this. I’m sure I can still get that promotion.”

What are the side effects of negative thinking?

Having constant negative thinking can lead to:

Chronic stress
Poor mental health
Low quality of life
Pessimism
Poor communication
Low self-esteem

The 4 negative thinking categories:

Identifying negative thinking is the first step to improving your self talk. This type of thinking generally falls into these four categories:

Magnifying: you focus on the worst parts of a situation and pay no attention to the positive parts. For instance, you return from a tropical vacation and only talk about how expensive and hot it was.
Polarizing: you see things as either good or bad, black or white. There’s no room for a middle ground. For instance, you think you have to be perfect — if you make mistakes, you're a failure.
Catastrophizing: you expect the worst. For instance, you spill coffee on your shirt and assume the rest of the day will be a disaster.
Personalizing: you blame yourself when bad things happen. For instance, your boss is in a bad mood, and you automatically assume it’s because of you.

When you recognize what types of negative thinking you have, you can use the power of self talk to help you. It doesn’t happen overnight. But with time, practice, and dedication, you can correct your negative self talk.

How to overcome negative self talk: Negative self talk examples and solutions

In this section, we’ll cover five techniques to overcome negative thinking. We’ll also share some positive and negative self talk examples for each technique.

Here are five ways to overcome negative thinking:

1. Monitor your thought patterns

Use the four negative thinking categories to track your daily thoughts.

When you spot a thought that’s magnifying, polarizing, catastrophizing, or personalizing, call it out.

First, mention the offending category. Then, start the next thought with, “I choose to believe…” and follow it up with a positive thought.

For instance:

Instead of, “This day is just going to get worse,” try, “I don’t want to catastrophize. I choose to believe my day will be great.”

Instead of, “That lecture was long and a waste of time,” try, “I don’t want to magnify. I choose to believe I learned something new.”

2. Talk to yourself like you would talk to your best friend

Isn’t it strange how people can be nicer to their friends than they are to themselves? In some cases, if we spoke to our friends the way we speak to ourselves, we wouldn’t have any friends.

Change the script by focusing on self-love and self-acceptance instead of self-judgment.

For instance:

Instead of, “I bet the neighbors noticed I gained weight,” try, “I love my body no matter what size it is.”

Instead of, “There’s no way they’d hire me,” try, “I’d be a great candidate for that position.”

3. Keep an eye on your stress levels

Thoughts and stress go hand-in-hand.

It’s difficult to think positively when you’re under high stress. And it’s also difficult to manage your stress when you have too many negative thoughts.

That’s why it’s essential to prevent high stress before it starts — in your mind. When you catch yourself thinking about something stressful, immediately shift the focus to how resilient you are.

For instance:

Instead of, “This project is too hard,” try, “I can do anything I set my mind to.”

Instead of, “The clock is ticking, and I’ll never finish this on time,” try, “I’ve been on deadline before — this is no big deal.”

4. Look on the bright side

Most experiences have a negative and a positive side if we look closely. You may not enjoy doing laundry, but you love having clean clothes to wear afterward. You may hate getting on planes, but you love exploring a new place once you land.

When you start focusing on the negative side of things, flip your thinking to the positive side.

For instance:

Instead of, “That movie was bad,” try, “That was a unique storyline.”

Instead of, “That sounds boring,” try, “I’m looking forward to doing something different.”

5. Challenge your thoughts

Challenging your thoughts is the best way to see if they are true and logical. A great question to ask when you’re experiencing this is: is there evidence to back up what I’m thinking?

If there’s no logic to support those thoughts, change your point of view.

For instance:

Instead of, “They don’t want me to go to the party,” try, “They knew I planned on going out of town that weekend.”
Instead of, “I’m stuck, and I don’t know what to do,” try, “With a little creativity, I’ll find a solution.”

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How to have positive self talk daily: 7 positive self talk examples

Here are seven ways to embed positive self talk into your daily life:

1. Start in the morning

Set yourself up for success by practicing positive self talk in the morning.

For instance, start the day with some positive affirmations and mindfulness meditation.

A positive affirmation is a positive and uplifting statement. Some examples are “I’m enough, and I love myself,” and “I believe in myself, I’m strong.”

2. Weave it into your routine

Make positive self talk part of your everyday routine.

For instance:

Listen to an uplifting podcast when you’re in the car or when you’re doing routine tasks like washing dishes.
When you’re at work, remind yourself that you’re doing a great job. You can also write down an uplifting quote on a post-it note and stick it on your laptop for inspiration.
When you’re grabbing a coffee, practice your affirmations.
Read an inspirational book on your lunch break.
In the evenings, write down three things you love about yourself in your journal.

Whether you’re at work, in the car, or at home, make sure to regulate your thoughts throughout your day.

3. Work with your inner critic

Your inner critic is the voice inside you that criticizes anything about you. When your inner critic chimes in, you have a few options: ignore it, interview it, or shift your attention.

The method you choose will depend on the situation. If your inner critic is stopping by for a quick rant, ignore it, affirm yourself, and go about your day.

If your inner critic keeps pestering you, try interviewing it to see if it has something useful to offer.

If all else fails, shift your attention away from yourself. Focusing your attention on others silences your self-criticism. It also increases your compassion for yourself and others.

4. Refer to yourself in the third person

The language you use when you speak to yourself changes the way you feel. Especially when you’re faced with a challenge.

During a challenging time, try referring to yourself in the third person. Use your preferred personal pronouns such as ‘he,’ and ‘she,’ ‘they’ or your name whenever it makes sense.

Using the third person in self talk can help you think more objectively. This helps your craft better responses and emotions. It can also help reduce stress and anxiety.

For instance, let's say you’re on the side of the road and your car won’t turn on. Instead of saying "I can't believe this is happening," try, “It’s going to be okay Mandy, we’re going to figure this out soon.”

5. Set daily reminders

An easy way to remember to improve your self talk is by using automatic reminders. Set your phone or your calendar up to remind you to keep working on your self talk.

You can set simple reminders like, “Don’t forget to track your thoughts today,” and “Be your own best friend.”

You can also set more detailed reminders like, “Keep an eye on polarizing thoughts today.” Or, “Remind yourself to breathe when you’re feeling overwhelmed.”

6. Check-in with yourself

Check in with your feelings on a regular basis, especially on bad days.

For instance, if you’re noticing one negative event after the other, stop and check your self talk. Is it helpful or negative? Kind, or rude to myself? Then use the tools you learned in the previous section to flip the script.